The Aspergirl's Survival Guide

The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: A Day of Self-Care for Valentine’s Day

Once again, it’s that time of year where couples make plans to do something special for each other, and that time of year in which those who are single lament their non-existent love lives or decide to celebrate another year of being single with other singles. Yes, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner; and this year’s Valentine’s will be a little bit weirder for Catholics as Ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent for this year, falls on Valentine’s Day.

As someone with high functioning autism and who is single, I’ve always seen Valentine’s Day as a day in which I have an excuse to buy and eat chocolates, a day in which I have an excuse to give myself a little treat or two, and a day that will most probably be overwhelming for me if I went out due to the number of couples out on a date that night.

So, in line with this, I decided to make a list of tips of suggestions on what to do and how to survive Valentine’s Day as a single person with high functioning autism.

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1.Treat Yourself- Do something extra special that you love to do, and it can be something that you can do alone or with a bunch of very good friends!

2.Pamper Yourself- You deserve to relax and calm down for a while, and Valentine’s Day is a great day to have an excuse to go all out on it! Do something relaxing- have a massage; go to the spa;ย  read a good book; or fill your tub with warm water, put in a bath bomb or some oil essences and just allow yourself to just relax.


3.Go Out on Off Peak Hours or Avoid Going Out to the Mall or Restaurant- Valentine’s Day will be a pretty busy day in restaurants or out in the mall. If you want to go out and treat yourself out to some shopping or a nice meal out, go during off peak hours or plan to treat yourself out NOT on February 14 so you can avoid all the overwhelming crowds.

4.Celebrate Your Relationship With Your Friends- Valentine’s Day can also be the perfect opportunity for you to tell your friends how much you mean to them! You can send them cards if you want to, or you can plan a nice dinner out with them, or invite them over to your house for a nice meal at your place.

5.Have A “Galentine’s Day” Celebration With Your Closest Female Friends- In “Parks & Recreation”, Leslie Knope (Amy Poehler) celebrates something called Galentine’s Day before Valentine’s Day. Here, she gathers her female friends together, they have a meal out and they exchange presents. If you have a bunch of awesome girlfriends, regardless of whether they be single or not, you can do this!

6.Unplug from Technology For A Few Hours- Most of the time, we are either on our phones or on our computers, either for work or to check out the latest Facebook updates of your friends. In order not to torture yourself with pictures of your friends in relationships going out that night while you are doing nothing at all for the night, why not unplug from technology, not check your Facebook feed, and do something relaxing instead,like reading a good book.

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7.Treat Yourself Out to A Nice Meal- Another way you can treat yourself is to have either a delicious home cooked meal with your favorite drink, or to go out and eat out either in a fancy restaurant or in a place you’ve been wanting to try out for a very long time. However, as mentioned earlier, best to stick to off peak hours or go either the day before or after Valentine’s Day so as not to get too overwhelmed.

8.Make A List of all the Blessings You Have- Cliche but true. Nothing makes you feel a little better than making a list of all the things that you have and making a list of all of those around you who make you feel special and loved.

9.Celebrate Your Relationship With Your Family- Whether it be on Valentine’s Day itself, or the day before or after, Valentine’s Day is a good excuse to celebrate the love that you have for your family! Treat them out or invite them over to your house for a special meal together!

10.If You Have A Pet, Spend More Time With Them- Your pets will always love you no matter what. For Valentine’s Day, celebrate your relationship with your pet by spending extra time with them or by pampering them!

What do you think of this list? Do you have any other self-care tips for Valentine’s Day? Let me know in the comments below!


6 thoughts on “The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: A Day of Self-Care for Valentine’s Day

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    1. Thank you! I believe that self-care is always important, regardless of whether you are single or in a relationship! Followed your blog, btw! Also, if thereโ€™s anything you want to see me write about, Iโ€™m always open to suggestions, just let me know! ๐Ÿ˜

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