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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 36

I honestly can’t believe that Christmas is coming soon, and the year, especially the work year, is starting to wrap up, which makes me start to wonder on how much progress I made throughout this year. Speaking of progress, I did make some progress communicating some much needed things to my family, and I’m glad that they were very receptive about it.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 34

Last week was a stressful one for me as last week was my first week truly back doing my online course, and the coursework this time around is really heavy, as I do have submissions every week. To top it off, things are getting pretty hectic at work, what with the year beginning to wrap up, and we need to start planning already for next year. As I was so busy, I wasn’t able to feel very balanced as I would push back the things that I know make me feel less insane during insanely hectic times like this. I won’t do that next time!

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 33

Last week felt like a strange week, as I’m used to being stressed during the week of Halloween, as I used to be in charge of events in the office. I did have a little bit of stress with a video that I had to compile for the cosplay competition, and because I was a bit overwhelmed with the Digital Marketing Capstone I’m currently taking on Coursera. I could have probably handled myself better emotionally, but wasn’t able to as the week just felt off to me.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 31

Last week started great, and continued to be great, what with a new exercise schedule in the morning, and cooler weather despite the fact that it now rains for an entire day. However, it really now does feel like the -Ber months have finally arrived, and that the dry season is really over.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 29

To be honest, I’m very fond of the month of October as I do love dressing up/cosplaying for Halloween, and because it means that there are only a few months left until my birthday. However, October also means the start of the last quarter of the year, which also means that there are a lot of plans to be made, and reports to make as well.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 25

I really can’t believe that it’s September already. It honestly doesn’t feel like the start of the Christmas season at all, as I’m accustomed to hearing Christmas music being played in the convenience store or on radio stations. This week, although there were some fun highlights, I did feel pretty tired, which is making me way more excited for the staycation I’m planning to take this week.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 24

I can’t believe that it’s already September, the month where, in my country, malls and radio stations start playing Christmas songs. However, as most of us are staying at home, we’ll be the ones playing it in our homes. It also makes me wonder how Christmas and New Year’s festivities will be this year. One thing’s for sure, it’ll probably be over Zoom calls or social distanced as we have no idea when the curve will flatted over here.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 23

I am not sure if I’ve ever mentioned it before, but ever since I was a kid, I’ve moved more than ten times; and at one point, we moved thrice within the same village. So, it’s no surprise that over the weekend, we decided to do a little rearranging and actually moved into different rooms, within our house. What nobody tells you though, is the fact that moving out of a room and into a new room is just as exhausting as moving houses.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 22

I think I put a little bit too much pressure on myself this week towards the end of the week as compared to the previous weeks due to the fact that there were some work goals I wanted to accomplish that I was really worried about not being able to complete, which caused me a lot of stress last Thursday and Friday. Despite the work stress and some emotional outbursts during the week, this week has been a lot better as compared to recent weeks.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 21

This week went more smoothly than I thought it would, ad I think that it was mostly because I was able to get better quality sleep, and I was able to adjust well to another new schedule. Another thing was that I did make sure that I really had things that I was able to really look forward to at the end of the week, which, in a way, did keep me going.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 20

Even though the rainy season began in June, I’m only feeling it now because the rains have gotten stronger, as monsoon rains are really here. It’s a very different experience experiencing the two main seasons we have here stuck at home, and it certainly does have its perks, like not needing to worry about how hot and humid it will be and my shoes not getting destroyed if you have to walk a little bit around the city where I work. However, there are some things that never change, such as my seasonal allergies.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 19

The past couple of weeks definitely took a toll on me, which resulted in me trying to take it easier although I still had to balance work with chores. That, being more kind to myself, having a more positive attitude, and more sleep helped improve things a lot!

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 17

To be honest, that was one of the most tiring weeks I’ve had. Aside from the fact that so much has been going on, my family is now two weeks in without a household staff and with us (mostly us five children), really doing chores. We, especially me, are still adjusting, which has undeniably led to moments of frustration especially when my expectations don’t match up to reality. (In all honestly, even though the chores are divided, it’s really hard work to maintain a house that’s three stories high.)

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 15

I cannot believe that we have reached the end of June, and with that, half a year has just literally gone by. This also means that its time to take stock of the first half of the year and plan for the second half, and although it may seem like this year is a weird one, I’m pretty sure that if you take a good look and what you’ve accomplished, especially during the quarantine period, you might see that you’ve actually grown a little bit more, more than you expected. 

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 14

The month of June is going by so fast! It seems like we just started the month and now we are going into the fourth week of June! I still can’t really make heads or tails of this year at all, but this past week was pretty tiring yet fun for me. 

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 13

This week was a pretty big week for me, and I have no idea how I survived it. The biggest thing that happened was that I can finally now talk about the project that I have been hinting at for some weeks now- I launched my own YouTube channel for my other blog, The Kat’s Cafe! Aside from this, it has been a week of learning and gaining new insights about myself as well. Continue reading “The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 13”

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 12

Things have been busier than usual for me, as I have been working on both small and big creative projects aside from a new creative project I’m also working on for work. I also wasn’t so diligent about working out in Week 11, so I tried my best to hop back on that train again; and it reminded me that it really does feel good to exercise, especially right after you get up from bed in the morning. Continue reading “The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 12”

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 11

Right now, the region I live in, and the cities where I work and live at, are now under a General Community Quarantine. This means that there are establishments and offices that are now slowly opening, for economic reasons. And, of course, we are still being advised to stay home rather than go outside. However, I still count these as weeks under a community quarantine as the quarantine itself hasn’t been lifted totally yet. 

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 10

At this point in time, most of the city is gearing back to shift into the modified enhanced community quarantine, but things don’t feel that clear yet. Funnily enough, the weather seems to be mirroring this confusion as there are moments when it is still very hot, followed by downpours of rain. However, I’m glad that the rain does bring some cool weather when it does. Aside from that, my week was pretty hectic, and will be so until next Tuesday mostly due to work, so I can’t wait until I can relax a little bit more in the latter half of the week.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 9

These past two weeks have gone by so fast and have honestly been the hottest weeks recorded in my country as of late, a reminder that summer is here, but one without the usual trips to the beach, Tagaytay or Baguio due to the current situation. Aside from this, many people are confused and anxious about what the new normal will be looking like, especially in Metro Manila as we are now in a state of Modified Enhanced Community Quarantine (MECQ) now. Worries and anxieties aside, I’m pretty sure that I still really won’t be going out of my village yet, and I’m excited as well as there are many new and interesting new things and plans coming my way for the next two months.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 8

Ever since the community quarantine started, time seemed to move pretty slowly. However, for some reason, this week went by so fast. I’m not sure if it was because of the workload (work and house chores) that I have, or because of the fact that it is quite possible that we will be shifting to a General Community Quarantine by the end of next week. In any case, it was quite a week.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 7

I can’t believe that it’s already May, which means that we are one month away from reaching the halfway mark of 2020, and I have no idea what to think if this year yet. At this point in time, I can say that I have gotten comfortable enough with my daily routines that I can be flexible with it at times. However, I think that with a new month and the upcoming lifting of the Enhanced Community Quarantine on May 15 and shifting to a General Community Quarantine, there is also a certain feeling of uncertainty in the air.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 6

I cannot believe that we have already reached the six week mark of the enhanced community quarantine in Manila, which means that this lockdown has gone on for two months already. Unsurprisingly, our government also recently  announced that the lockdown will be extended until May 15, which means that my current routines will be my new normal until then. However, despite being two months in, I feel that I still haven’t gotten to the level of my ideal current routine, but it’s getting there.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 5

At this point in time, I thought that things would be a bit more normal, or whatever the normal feels like nowadays. However, week 5 proved to be a little bit more emotional than I expected- maybe because I’m interacting with my family more now compared to the previous weeks, or because I still have some pent up emotions that haven’t come out yet since more than a month ago. Whatever the case is, I think I should let go of that expectation of wanting at least one week that feels “normal”, because it will just make me disappointed. I still have a long way to go when it comes to “letting go” of expectations, no matter how small they are.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 4

Everyone had a feeling that the quarantine over here was going to be extended, so it was no surprise when our national government announced that they would be extending the quarantine until April 30, 2020. To be honest, even though I am going a bit crazy, I think it would be better to extend until the curve flattens out more a bit. This year’s Holy Week and Easter celebrations were very different as compared to before as services were all online. However, all things considered, this has been the calmest week for me ever since the quarantine began.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 3

Given that the second week of the quarantine was pretty crazy in the homefront, I was hoping that week 3 would run more smoothly. However, this week reminded and taught me that having high expectations of things sets yourself up for disappointment, and that it’s better to try to be more flexible and to roll with the punches instead.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 2

After the first week in quarantine, I thought that I pretty much had things under control as I already had a nice time blocked schedule in place, and I had goals that I wanted to achieve by the time the quarantine ended. However, life seems to have a way of throwing overwhelming curve balls which keeps you on your toes and makes you run on pure adrenaline for a while. However, it does end up giving you life lessons and timely reminders; and the hope that a certain point, it won’t be as overwhelming as you thought it was before.

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The Aspergirl Diaries: Community Quarantine Week 1

Lately, I’ve noticed that I’ve been posting more Survival Guides as compared to my other categories. This is mostly because I’ve been making so much lists of protocols for myself to cope with things because so much has been going  on, and mostly because its easier for me to make lists in general. However, I thought that it would be interesting as well to some unstructured posts, giving you guys updates, and my thoughts, feelings and discoveries in daily life. Think of it as me talking to you more freely as compared to my other posts. Some of these might be reflected in Survival Guides or The Aspergirl Reflects On…,as these posts might become the basis for those in the future. I think you can expect these posts to pop up maybe weekly, or at the very least, once a month.

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The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: How To Cope with Anxiety Due to World Events

It has only been less than two months into both the new year (2020), and the new decade, but sometimes, if feels like several months have passed already because of all the distressing world related events that have seemingly been happening one after the other, whether it be a local or international concern.

All of this,  combined with the never ending stream of both helpful and harmful (fake news) information on social media might trigger what I like to call anxiety and panic due to world events. To be honest, all of this caused both my anxiety and OCD to go on hyperdrive, to the point that I had a pretty bad anxiety and panic attack during one work day and had to call my therapist in order to calm down again.  I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only one feeling this way right now, so I thought  that it would be good to share some tips that I’ve been doing in order to help my anxiety levels go down.

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The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: How To Goal Set For the New Year (2020 Edition)

First off, Happy 2020, Dear readers! I hope that you all had great time during the holidays, and I hope that despite how physically and emotionally draining the holidays can sometimes be, that you had a great one and that you all took care of your mental health as well.
Everything’s been well with me, and I do apologize for being very absent from this blog, especially during the -Ber months, as those are the busiest and most stressful months of the year for me.
However, I do plan on still posting, especially as one of my New Year’s resolutions Is to post at least twice a month here, so keep watching this space!

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The Aspergirl Reflects On….A Decade of Working

Time really does fly fast, although sometimes, it may not seem that it does. This was the thought that crossed my mind after realizing that it has been ten years since I graduated college, which means that I have been part of the work force for a decade now. Finding a job and having a career isn’t easy for anyone, and it is even harder for those who exist on the spectrum or on the higher end of the spectrum, like me. In fact, it took me ten long years to figure out what I really wanted to do as a career and it took me that long as well to create strategies and coping mechanisms to help me cope with the job and career I have now. So, in line with this, I decided to create the “Aspergirl on the Job” category, in which I will impart some tricks, tips and know hows, all the way from strategy tips to some advice on how to choose a career path or the right job for you; and the pros and cons of a freelance versus a full time job. However, before diving into that, I’d like to share my own little story with you, as I’ve gained a lot of experiences over the ten years I’ve been working, with the thirteen jobs I’ve had in my life so far, and the realizations that led me to where I am today.

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The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: How To Handle Change

Change, whether it be something as small as small as a change in plans or routines, or a major change, like entering a new job, is a constant in life, and we all have our own ways of coping with it. However, for people with Asperger’s Syndrome, change is something that doesn’t come as easy or as natural to us, even if it is as simple as a small change in schedule or routine, and can go as far as being something that can be upsetting to the point that it can trigger either a big or small meltdown.

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The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: How to Bounce Back to Routine (Vacation Edition)

Going on vacation- no matter what kind it is or how long it lasts for- is a great way to relax and unwind from the stresses of work and the routines of our lives, to discover new places, and to create new memories whether it be a solo vacation or with others. However, once the vacation or holiday is done, more often than not, we have a hard time adjusting back to the routines of everyday life and work, especially as we still have a “hangover” of sorts from our great holiday and wish we were back on holiday again. This is true for everybody, but I noticed that compared to others, my adjustment period takes a little bit longer, but it gets there eventually. So, I decided to list down my top five tips to help you bounce back into your regular routine after going on vacation.

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The Wandering Aspergirl: Seoul 2019

Unlike most, I have never been bitten by the wanderlust bug, maybe because as a family, it is not something that we do, until recently. It started last year, in which we ended up travelling to Northern Luzon thrice in a year- we went to Baguio twice (one in May, and that trip is detailed in this post; and one in December), and we had one impromptu road trip up north to Pangasinan.

However, late last year, we caught wind of a wonderful AirAsia seat sale, and we decided to travel as a family to Seoul, South Korea from June 20 to 23, 2019. This would also mark our second trip abroad as a whole family, as the last time we traveled was to Hong Kong, two years ago, and that time, we also had extended family with us, unlike this time.

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The Aspergirl Reviews: Clean with Passion For Now

The Aspergirl Reviews segment is finally back! In this segment of this blog, I will be taking a look at different kinds of media (books, tv shows & movies) that deal with mental health issues, and seeing if they handled it correctly or not. Aside from this, I’ll also be talking about how I felt about it, and how it affected me as well. And what better way to kick off this segment for this year than by starting it off with a Korean drama that surprised me in terms of its representation and its personal impact on me- JBTC’s “Clean with Passion For Now”.

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The Aspergirl Explains: What Is Mysophobia?

It’s been a few weeks since my first update, and I know that I said I was going to post more frequently….. and then real life and work once again reared their heads at me. However, I do hope to be able to continue posting more frequently from now on, and if I’m not able to, I’ll try to  give a heads up as well on both this blog and on my social media accounts. So, without further ado, let’s get into my actual first post to officially start things off for this blog.

In the past, the categories of “Understanding Aspies” and “The Aspergirl Explains” categories were dedicated to explain things more related to autism and autistic spectrum disorders, but this year, I decided to open it up a little bit more so that I could talk about mental health issues in general, and more specifically, those that I also experience. So, with that in mind, the very first mental health issue I’ll be tackling for the very first post of the year for this category is something that is very much close to home for me as I have it as well- mysophobia.

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The Welcome Back Post, 2019 Edition

I can’t believe it’s been around seven months since my last post in September of last year. Around that time, a lot of new and exciting things happened to me in real life, especially in terms of my full time job. However, this also meant that it demanded more of my time, energy and attention, which is why The Asian Aspergirl has been neglected for so long.

However, I knew that I still wanted to make my voice be heard on the subject, but never found the right timing to do so. Now that I’ve been able to take some time and think hard about things, especially in terms of the direction of this blog, I can finally make my comeback to this little space of mine. 

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The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: Tips on how to Weather Typhoons/Hurricanes

Living in a tropical country like the Philippines means that summers are extremely hot and humid, and that we are subject to a lot of natural disasters. Some of these that we have the most experience in include heavy rains brought in by the monsoon, and, of course, storms and a lot of typhoons. Typhoons, storms and hurricanes happen all over the world every year, and as each year goes by, the frequency and the intensity of these storms get stronger all the time. And as (Super) Typhoon Mangkhut (local name Typhoon Ompong) is currently in the Philippines, and as Hurricane Florence is currently in some parts of the United States, I decided to compile a little list of tips that I use for myself whenever typhoons happen.

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The Aspergirl Reflects: Lessons Learned from the #TaketheMaskOff Challenge

As the #TaketheMaskOff Challenge draws to a close this week, I decided to look back at the past six weeks and what I’ve written here as part of the challenge, and to see how it has impacted me, and what I hope I was able to do with writing these things down here. So, without further ado, here is my very last entry for the #TaketheMaskOff Challenge!

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The Aspergirl’s Survival Guide: Top 5 Masking Coping Strategies

Last week, for Week 5 of the #TaketheMaskOff Challenge, we talked about diagnosis, self-awareness and how that impacts masking. This week, the second to the last week of the challenge, we will be talking about strategies that can be used to to cope with masking. Most of these strategies came from all the lessons and experiences I’ve been through over the years, and in the end, it resulted in me being able to do something a person in the comments section here referred to as “authentic masking”.

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Understanding Aspies: How Diagnosis & Self-Awareness Impact Masking

We are now in week five of the Take Off The Mask Challenge! Last time, we talked about Autistic Burnout and how it is caused by masking. This week, we will talk about how diagnosis and  self-awareness impacts masking. This topic actually does directly lead into next week’s topic, which is all about coping strategies and using them deliberately.

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Understanding Aspies: Autistic Burnout

As of this moment, we are now more than halfway through with the #TakeTheMaskOff Challenge as we are now in Week 4. So far, we have talked about masking, stimming, and how these affect one’s mental health. For this week’s post, we will take an even deeper dive and talk about burnout, how it is related to masking, and my own experiences of this.

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Understanding Aspies: The Cost of Masking

As of the moment, we are currently in the third week of the #TakeTheMaskOff Challenge, and the experience of writing about masking and stimming has been quite liberating for me, and it is also interesting to see how far I’ve come from when I myself didn’t understand my own diagnosis and myself, and I hope that these posts, which talk about masking from my own personal point of view, will allow the readers to understand what we go through, and at the same time, I hope that others like me are encouraged to speak out and make their own voices heard. So far we have talked about masking and stimming. So, for the third week of the challenge, let’s take a look at the physical and mental cost that masking has on individuals with autism, my own personal experience of how exhausting it can be, and what coping strategies I use now in order to lessen the physical and mental exhaustion and stress.

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